As a womanizer is called a bad word. If he is a womanizer-collector. Hunting game

We all have our flaws, and wise women understand that the odds of meeting the perfect man are zero. However, there is a category of men whose shortcomings go beyond all reasonable boundaries. We are talking about the so-called womanizers who are very fond of female attention and do not want to burden their lives with serious relationships. In this article, you will find out what signs say that a guy is a womanizer.

A typical womanizer has charisma, attractiveness and good manners, however, behind the external charm hides a "tempting serpent" who easily breaks women's hearts. The main disadvantage of a womanizer is that he cannot and does not want to remain faithful to the object of his passion. Falling in love and charming women is a kind of fun for him, with which he is unlikely to ever part.

Fortunately, the behavior of an overly loving man has characteristics that should alert you. Here are 7 top signs that indicate your boyfriend is a womanizer.

1. He pays attention to other women

All men love attractive women, and there is nothing wrong with that. But not a single normal man will scatter attention on other representatives of the fair sex in front of his girlfriend, realizing that this is offensive and unpleasant for her. But since the womanizer does not have any moral principles, he will flirt without any problems with you and with a couple of beauties that he liked.

2. He speaks negatively about his ex.

Psychologically mature people try to adhere to one unspoken principle - not to tell their partner about their former relationship. And even if such conversations cannot be avoided, a worthy man will not "throw mud" at his ex-girlfriend, but, most likely, will limit himself to a couple of general phrases. However, the womanizer operates according to a completely different scheme. If you believe his stories, then the ex-girlfriend of this man is the devil in the flesh, which inflicted many spiritual wounds on him. By speaking negatively about his ex, the womanizer is just trying to make you feel pity.

3. He constantly communicates on the phone and social networks

Modern girls have to put up with the fact that a romantic date can be interrupted by a phone call, after which a man will solve important work issues. However, if the phone is the eternal companion of a man, most likely, it is not a matter of work. If, while with you, the guy constantly replies to SMS and messages on social networks, dump him immediately. Firstly, it is elementary disrespect and bad manners. And, secondly, it is highly likely that the guy is communicating with his fans in parallel.

4. Abundance of compliments

Every womanizer has the talent of an orator and a master of the verbal genre. This man will give you the most graceful, funny and cute compliments, after which you will involuntarily lose your guard. Of course, the ability to speak beautifully does not automatically make a womanizer out of a man. But you should be alerted if compliments pour out of a guy's mouth in an endless stream and, moreover, seem too pretentious and exaggerated.

5. Perfect courtship

Men who call themselves professional pickups know a lot about women's weaknesses. If he decides that you should be the next chapter in his list of achievements, he will do everything possible to make a decent impression on you. Most often, womanizers act in the style of romantic melodramas, the heroes of which present their girls with scarlet roses, write cute SMS, wait from work, make pleasant surprises, etc. Of course, absolutely all men in love want to surround the object of their passion with care and attention, but the womanizer does it too obtrusively and swiftly.

6. Unexpected disappearances

If you are unlucky and you are caught in the network of a womanizer, get ready for the fact that very soon he will suddenly disappear for several days, and then he will appear and behave as if nothing had happened. The womanizer will explain his mysterious disappearances by very important and urgent matters - poor health, the arrival of distant relatives, problems at work, etc. But don't rush to console him. In fact, a man-womanizer was absent from your life only because he spent time with other women.

7. He doesn't rush things.

There are two categories of womanizer - those who immediately strive for close relationships, and those who do not rush things. In the first case, you will feel that something was wrong literally from the first date, because the behavior of a man seeking only intimacy speaks for itself. But the womanizer from the second category is more cunning. This person will first surround you with attention, fall in love with himself, and then pull back a little, tying you even more to himself.

One or two signs on this list don't tell you your boyfriend is a womanizer. It is possible that in some moments the behavior of a womanizer and the behavior of a serious man may have similar features. But if each item seems to be copied from your new acquaintance, there is no doubt - he is a typical ladies' man, from whom you should stay away.

It is believed that a womanizer is a man or a guy who is absorbed in women. Womanizers know how to look after beautifully, but at the same time they are not capable of long-term relationships. Does a womanizer know how to love? This question is asked by thousands of women, and among these thousands there were several of my friends. Since I am opposed to generalization, even when it concerns men, I decided to deal with this issue in more detail.

And so, the starting point, the label is a womanizer! I asked my friends about their thoughts, questions, associations, etc. at the time when they hear that some man is a womanizer or someone's boyfriend is a womanizer. And this is what I heard in response.

A womanizer is a man who jumps from one woman to another at the speed of a flea.

• Womanizer man
• When I hear that some man is a womanizer, then most likely I will not believe it. Yes, they meet, perhaps more often than anyone would like, but I came across such a couple of times, no more. But women who could not keep a man next to them often hid it, saying that their man was a womanizer. - Veronica
• It seems to me that women adore men womanizers and lose their heads wanting to get it, but at the same time, this is most likely something similar to a sports interest, since the love of a womanizer is something from the category of spilled ether, it is fleeting. - Milana
• A man loves women, what else can I say. As a womanizer, do not feed him, he will all "love" all the women in his environment. To love is loudly said, rather just to use. Not to use, namely to use, but will do it beautifully, will show an increased interest in a woman, it is not for nothing that womanizers are also called ladies 'men, ladies' men.

The psychology of a womanizer is to crawl under the skirt of the maximum number of individuals of the opposite sex.

• Womanizer guy
• When I was still very young, I had one friend of mine, a womanizer. I do not know how his future life developed, but in those days he had his own little harem and he did not even hide it. I will not hide, but sometimes I wanted him to turn his attention to me. - Elena
• It seems to me that you cannot see a womanizer in a still young guy. How can you recognize a womanizer in a young man if his reaction to women is dictated by a hormonal explosion? Rather, it is a process of self-knowledge, self-study. Due to the fact that the guy is very sociable and has a lot of girlfriends, he cannot be called a womanizer. - Zarina
• The guy is a womanizer, not a man, but a young guy is more of a pick-up artist, and if there was a hierarchy among pick-up artists, then this is the most pathetic kind of womanizer. Guys become such womanizers out of fear of their wretchedness. These failed Don Juans, ladies' men, Casanova proudly call themselves pick-ups, but at the same time remain loyal to their cam at best. - Alice

Womanizers lose interest in a woman as soon as they get what they want, and therefore they do not want to linger on one woman, but immediately move on to the next, previously prepared one.

• Former womanizers
• I think I will not be mistaken if I assume that there are no former womanizers. Such men can be easily noticed, they feel at ease in any environment, they always know what to say, they are very courteous and polite, but at the same time to all women at once. - Alice
• If a man is a former womanizer, then either the grave will correct him, or he must meet the strongest love. Although I personally do not believe that a womanizer can change. Well, he fell in love, so what? How long? It is worth shaking him with a fresh skirt, as a new interest awakens - Milan
• With a woman, a womanizer behaves as if she is the queen of the world. A few precise compliments, a couple of guessed wishes, and the lady begins to fall in love. Very soon, a former womanizer seduces another queen to become an ex again, leaving behind a crowd of girls with broken hearts. - Irina

The womanizer is afraid of the truth about himself like fire and hides it for self-confidence, arrogance, rudeness. Should a womanizer feel a little danger, he is already on his way to another woman.

It should be noted that a womanizer is not a lifelong status of one man, in most cases it is his temporary condition. At some point, the womanizer gets tired of his "travels" and finds a "safe haven" with which, as a rule, he lives for a long time.

I am a man! There is nothing wrong with being a man and having a desire to conquer and seduce women. I'm not going to make excuses and apologize for this. I do what I want, and I have every right to do so.
- the most popular statement of womanizers.

Why is it so easy for a womanizer to charm any woman?

The answer to this question is very simple. The womanizer has experience with different types of women. Getting acquainted with this or that woman, the womanizer easily defines her to one of his "types" and behaves, adhering to certain tactics. He knows how to hook this or that woman: what to say to her and how to behave with her. And the woman, in turn, is led to this game and begins to think that he is her destiny, that he is the best man in the world and that they are made for each other. And the womanizer undoubtedly likes that he is considered the best.

• Psychologists about womanizers:
• "Womanizer-athlete"- suffer from Casanova's syndrome, for them the most important thing is to break their previous record for the number of beautiful ladies. The most popular type of womanizer. Often such womanizer keep special notebooks where they keep lists of" victories ".
• "Whiner womanizer"- such a person is used to constantly telling everyone about his unhappy life, that his wife does not understand him and therefore he is simply forced to satisfy his needs on the side. To enhance the effect, such a womanizer often says that as soon as he finds his woman, then immediately leave his wife.
• "Lover of women"- such womanizers most often truly love each of their women, treat them with respect and do not do such things that could somehow upset them. They are rare.

How to recognize a womanizer

Not only actions, but also demeanor says a lot about a man. Having carefully observed a man at the first time of acquaintance, you can understand who is in front of you.

The womanizer continues acquaintance not at all in order to get closer to the girl, her interests, worries and personal qualities. On the contrary, all that he aspires to is rather to draw her to him and to his bed. Thus, this type of man does not rise to a relationship, but pulls a woman down to his level - sex. The psychological discomfort that a woman experiences in this case is complemented by the fact that after intimacy, one cannot count on any obligations on his part. Often a womanizer loses interest in a partner and disappears from her field of vision, returning to her favorite pastime - the search for a new victim.

Casanova

The main womanizer of all times and peoples was the incomparable Giacomo Giovanni Casanova. If you believe the story, when the count was about twenty, his bride died of pneumonia. Casanova wanted to commit suicide, but after thinking limited himself to the decision - never to marry. And from that moment on, he warned all women with whom he had intimate relationships that he had no intentions other than sex and that no obligations to each other followed from their relationship.

His novels lasted no more than one month, but at the age of 40 he met a woman who resembled a deceased bride, and fell in love with her very much. Casanova's story once again confirms that a womanizer is a temporary phenomenon, for how long it will last is known only to providence. In the end, even the most desperate womanizer will fall head over heels in love and forget about all other women. The womanizer lets the woman know that he won't be with her for long, but women have a terrible habit of hoping.

Can Casanova conquer everyone? What a childishness! In fact, he simply is not able to refuse a single one.

• Womanizer and sex
• I don’t know who can think that a womanizer who doesn’t let a single girl pass by, changing them as if by a wave of a magic wand, can represent something attractive in bed. You can't get to orgasm with beautiful words. - Tom
• A very long time ago, I watched a wonderful program, and so, it was about the fact that womanizers eventually move into a state where it does not matter for them who has sex with and when, if only there was this moment. And this is already a disease that will require treatment, unfortunately I do not remember what it is called. - Alina
• Womanizer is an intimophobe. Intimophobia is the fear of long-term intimate relationships with the opposite sex. And what can I add here? That says it all. - Oksana
• Do not believe those who say that sex with a womanizer is sheer pleasure. Like he has a lot of experience, and he can do a lot, and he puts it into practice very well. In reality, this is complete squalor in bed. Before sex with a womanizer, everything is pleasant, beautiful and interesting, and in bed there is nothing but regret and even the time before sex with a womanizer is not able to compensate for the result. I communicate with knowledge of the matter, as I attract womanizers in myself like a magnet. - Victoria

If you fell in love with a womanizer ...

It is advisable, of course, not to fall in love with womanizers. But if this has already happened, then you have no choice but to prove to him that you are the only one on which it is time for him to stop. There are 2 ways to tie a womanizer to you. It all depends on the situation. But they both boil down to a simple rule: you must be different from the rest of his women.

How serious is your relationship?

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So, the first way is that you have to behave like him, however, not forgetting that you are still a woman. As stated earlier, the womanizer always wants to be number one. However, if he sees that a woman puts him on the same level with her other gentlemen, then it hurts him and he tries to do everything possible so that the woman is only with him. But if a woman behaves in the same way as a "womanizer", then she will not agree to love him alone, while he has other women. Then the womanizer realizes that if he wants to be number one for this woman, he will have to make sure that she is also number one for him. As a result, we get an absolutely equal relationship in which the womanizer is not afraid to be on the sidelines.

• Womanizer in love
• I think that womanizers are in a constant state of "search", they, like no one else, know how to easily get acquainted and look after beautifully, and even imitate falling in love, but they are afraid to think about serious feelings. - Diana
• I once read this description of a womanizer - he is an egoist, a narcissistic asshole, a well-read cattle and in some places a good person. I agree completely, so let the tales that a womanizer fell in love with someone remain fairy tales. You need to understand that a womanizer or, if you wish, a womanizer in love is a worthless man, and it is better not to mess with him. - Elena
• The first thing that comes to mind when talking about a womanizer in love is that you are literally "licked" from all sides, something bright, eccentric and charming. For me it was a pleasant experience, as I understood that in front of me was a "in love" womanizer and I simply tormented him with my promises, just teased him with what I wanted. It was the longest courtship in my life - Inara

The second method is fundamentally the opposite of the first. A former womanizer told me about this method. Let's call him Dmitry. So Dmitry until 31 was a real womanizer. Women were not translated with him. And none of them stayed for more than a month. And among his endless women there was one who fell madly in love with him. He could come to her at one in the morning, and she was always glad to him. If he was in trouble, she was always ready to come to his aid. She endured his endless adventures, was ready for anything, if only he was there. And, in the end, he just got tired of changing women like gloves. Dmitry understood perfectly well that no one would love him as she did. And one fine day he just came to her with a huge bouquet of white chrysanthemums and a wedding ring. They have been married for five years and live quite happily.

A womanizer - he is like a library book, a common property, he read it, return it, let others use it.

And in conclusion, just enter in the search engine "can a womanizer fall in love and how to keep him", you will plunge into a bunch of publications with tearful women's stories, where in all the details you will sound - for what! Someone will talk about how to loop a womanizer, keep and fall in love with a womanizer. Forget it. A womanizer will never fall in love - this is the truth, it is easier to leave him and forget him, like a bad dream.

A short instruction manual for the womanizer

Never fall in love with a womanizer

A minute of happiness is not worth a year of tears. Give yourself a clear "no, you can't." You can be good friends with a womanizer if you can. After all, it is very difficult to get rid of the inspiring feeling of falling in love, and there will be no sense from individuals of this species. Tears, suffering, worries are possible, but not a relationship "until death do us part."

Try not to see him as a man

He may be, I repeat, an excellent friend, brother, a primitive individual of the opposite sex, but not a man in the usual sense of the word. Do not, so as not to give him hope, do not admire, and many more verbs with a particle "not". The main thing is not to drag him down the aisle! Ideally, you are friends, "yours". It is possible that you will have to hear about all the "conquered, conquered and abandoned peaks" of a womanizer friend.

Womanizer = pick-up

A pick-up is a person who devotes most of their time to wandering the streets, bars, clubs, etc. in search of women to realize their Napoleonic plans in the field of love victories!

The purpose of the pickup: to quickly persuade the girl to have sex, while spending less money, time, effort.

Pick-up artists declare that they are not afraid of anything, they are looking for new experiences, for them the main thing is quantity. The quality doesn't even smell there. The more girls you manage to seduce, the better. They act exclusively according to the template once "triggered".

Personally, the image of a womanizer is much dearer to me. The womanizer does not hide his essence from the woman. And for him seducing women is not a sport, he would have stayed alone, but it’s scary to lose his independence.

The pick-up artist thinks about how to save money, spend less effort to seduce a girl. The womanizer, in turn, is ready for exploits. It doesn't matter to pick-up what kind of woman will be in his bed next time, the main thing is that it happens as quickly as possible and without much effort. The womanizer is more discriminating in this respect. He approaches only the one that really liked him and interested him. Output.

All men are terrible womanizers!
- Is that all?
- Yes. But can the rest be called men? ..

These are these womanizers. People are funny, interesting, mostly kind. And of course we women like it very much. Although we scold the womanizer, and in women's circles, a man - a womanizer is by no means a flattering definition, we still fall in love with them. Let's not deny that we love womanizers. Of course, it often hurts, and sometimes we hate them. But the main thing to remember: the fate of the womanizer you like is in your hands! Go for it!

Faced with another womanizer, every girl unwittingly finds herself in a situation where "she wants to and pricks." The mind says: "Are you crazy? What kind of relationship can there be with him? He has half a dozen people like you!" And pride and passion whisper: "What if I am the woman for whose sake he will forever change himself and change his whole life?"

Of course, it is at least stupid to cut all womanizers with the same size. After all, womanizers are different. Conventionally, all polygamous males can be divided into two large groups: hunters and gatherers. Hunters are after quality, while gatherers are only concerned with quantity.

Womanizer gatherers are ready to have sex with anything that moves.

They strengthen their reputation with a huge number of connections. At the same time, it does not matter for them who agreed to become their partner, the main thing is to put a mental tick: "Two hundredth! Anniversary!" At the same time, collectors often and with pleasure embellish the truth, or even openly lie about their love victories. Needless to say that usually women do not bury themselves too much on such "handsome men", and therefore even if such a womanizer-gatherer wants to start a serious relationship, it will be problematic, because few would agree to tame such a miracle. The question is, why does a "womanizer-gatherer" lead such a lifestyle? It's simple: he proves to himself and everyone around him his masculinity, coolness and brutality.

Another type of womanizer is hunters.

These are sophisticated heartthrobs who are interested in the process of conquest itself. Unlike gatherers who prefer simple targets, give hunters an inaccessible and high-quality prey. The more complex the object, the more desirable it is. For example, a married girl who is faithful to her husband or just a picky and unapproachable lady. Hunters recklessly seduce women. But having achieved their goal, they instantly lose interest in them. After all, the object has already been conquered, which means that there is no incentive for further action. For them, happiness is in the pursuit of happiness, and then in sweet memories. To continue courting an already conquered woman is as pointless for hunters as breaking into an open door.

Can womanizers change?

When a guy is a womanizer, changing his girlfriends like gloves, this is truly a punishment for the female sex. Nowadays, many women are burned about such an absurd phenomenon as a man a womanizer. But if you think that your case is "different" or you have some kind of power, then remember a few general recommendations.

You should not try to openly remake the ladies' man. This mission is almost impossible. In communicating with a loved one, he wants to feel emotional comfort, so one cannot clearly violate the boundaries of his territory, he needs warmth and unobtrusiveness.

Don't make him an object of adoration. Try not to pick up the phone when it rings, sign up for fitness or dancing, do not run at the first call. Let him feel that you need to be carried away correctly and be able to capture.

Womanizers are panicky afraid of an attempt on the zone of their space, therefore they perceive it very painfully and can abandon everything, run away.

Try to be loyal in relationships, show feminine cunning. It has been proven that love is considered the most effective therapy. Try to become the one that he could only dream of and then he will reciprocate.

The most, the most, the most important, the most important advice! Try to postpone the moment of convergence as far as possible. Walk to this important event with incredibly small steps, beautiful, flirty cat gait. If you can really interest him, you may see a completely different person.

“And I recognize a sweetheart by his walk,” and a potential traitor can be recognized by his face.

Men are different: white, black, red. But, but seriously, people are all different, and men are even more so. There are men, and there are womanizers. There is no woman who would like to see a traitor next to her.

Where do the womanizer come from?

Who is called a "womanizer"? For a man who cannot build a relationship with one woman, "per kati field."

Scientists doctors believe that a womanizer is a disease! And even the medical name was given - intimophobia.

Where do the womanizer come from? Nobody knows for certain. There are different opinions, some argue that this is at the genetic level, others are simply sure that they become womanizers by virtue of upbringing, others believe that from lack of confidence in their male abilities, in order to prove to others, and to himself including what he is “a man ".

Girls are not so interested in where they come from, how much, how to recognize them, so that later they do not have to sob and bite their elbows. And we must give them their due, they learned to recognize them. What is most interesting, you can recognize a potential traitor by the face.

Scientists conducted research

Scientists, and there are many women among them, are also puzzling over this problem. An interesting discovery was made by the luminaries of science from the University of Western Australia. Scientists conducted research by conducting a survey among men who are considered potential womanizers and traitors. The traitors frankly confessed their infidelities, and the experimenters photographed them. The photographs were shown to the women, and they unmistakably identified the womanizer. Amazingly, the tendency to cheat can be read in the face!

We recognize the womanizer by the face

Man womanizer, you recognize him from a thousand, just by looking at his face! His "depravity" is written on his face!

Herman Teplyakov, a specialist in visual psychodiagnostics, relying on many years of experience in observing appearance and behavior, advises girls to pay attention to the characteristic signs of a man who is prone to cheating.

Chin is a traitor

The chin is a traitor to a man of a polygamous lifestyle. And what kind of chin does a traitor have? A dimple on the chin, or a split, or a transverse wrinkle will give out a womanizer.

The jaw is an indicator of infidelity

A narrow jaw tends to be an indicator of infidelity in both women and men.

Big mouth and lips "heart"

A loving person is betrayed by a large mouth and lips with a "heart". Judge for yourself, because they seem to be made for kissing.

Turkish beard

Potential traitors very often "wear" a Turkish beard on their face.

Nostrils give out bodily impulses

A man is a womanizer, he can have any nose, both in shape and in length. Sexual temperament and bodily impulses give out the nostrils. And what are they? Wide!

Eyebrows will tell you about the tendency to lie

The disposition to cheating can also be recognized by the eyebrows. Highly set eyebrows will tell about a tendency to lie, especially if they also have an arched shape.

Eyes and gaze

Men who gravitate towards infidelity have medium or large eyes, a gaze, and also a crafty one. It has been observed that the darker the iris of the eyes, the stronger the temperament.

High level of sexuality

The high level of a man's sexuality can be judged by his low voice and sharp mind.

By the way

By the way, it should be noted that all these signs only indicate a predisposition to adultery, despite the fact that they have been tested by time.

Facial expressions and gestures testify

Alla Anatolyevna Moiseeva, a psychologist and polygraph examiner, a specialist in detecting lies, claims that a womanizer can be identified by the manner of speaking and on the basis of gestures, as well as by facial expressions. Facial expressions and gestures indicate a lie. There is a whole and how to recognize it. It is worth paying attention to how a person speaks and what he draws with gestures. The discrepancy between the balance of words, gestures, timbre of voice and facial expressions should raise suspicion.

They don't talk about love with a mask of indifference, when a person loves his face shines, and all emotions speak of happiness. This is a simple truth.

Experts suggest

The man is a womanizer, as a rule, cute and can turn the head of any girl. The real Don Juan! Perhaps there are in nature lovers of “pulling their hair out,” or self-confident ladies who think that they will change the womanizer. But if you do not belong to these categories, experts suggest that this is why there is a candy-bouquet period when a traitor can be caught in a lie. You have time: listen carefully, watch facial expressions and gestures, read facial features.

And there is a hole in the old woman

As old as the world proverb: "and there is a hole in the old woman." But it may happen that the owner of "vicious" facial features, from childhood, has learned iron moral principles, and now wants a strong family. And the modest man, with expressionless eyes, is ready to indulge in all bad news.

Man a womanizer, you recognize him from a thousand. Think, decide, the choice is yours, and only you decide!

Look more

Probably, every girl imagines a meeting with her prince as the main event in her life, after which the happiest days come. But after meeting some of the "princes", the problems are just beginning. This is especially true if the man is a womanizer. And an “innocent” first date with him can drag you into years of toxic relationships if you don't recognize the threat right away.

How to determine that this particular type is in front of you: a man for whom relationships have nothing to do with trust and loyalty?

Signs of a man-womanizer: how to calculate a womanizer

Charming, attractive, the soul of the company - this is how a man-womanizer most often appears in a woman's imagination. And more often than not he is really like that: with a well "hanging tongue" and able to make an impression. But does this mean that any charismatic man is a womanizer? No. This personality trait of a man shows through the stylish hairstyle and fashionable wardrobe in the form of almost invisible details.

1. Avoids eye contact

The womanizer man avoids looking you in the eye. Even when you're having a really engaging dialogue, he'll prefer to watch cars passing by or a waitress passing by your table. And the short glances that he throws at you is not a desire to fix your emotions and facial expression at one point or another, but an assessment of the situation: how much you have already succumbed to his tricks. Do not be deceived if the womanizer still looks you in the eye. If at the same time he twirls a wine list in his hands, crumples a napkin, or bangs his finger aimlessly on the table, this may mean that he is subconsciously trying to switch your attention to the movement in his hands and break eye contact. True, he can be a really romantic-minded man who gets very nervous on the first date.

2. Not interested in your life

The average womanizer is a disgusting actor who cannot fit into an unnatural role for him. He knows: asking about your hobbies, work, family will help him to impress. But since in fact he is indifferent to your successes and failures, then his manner of taking an interest in your life is very characteristic. This is more like an interview than a dialogue. Having received an answer to his question, the womanizer does not develop this topic further - he jumps to the next question, and then to the next.

3. Treats you too freely

Even the most experienced ladies' man, who knows how to keep his nature under control, cannot but betray himself. One of the characteristic features of behavior in this type is the overly rapid transition from verbal signs of attention to physical contact.
It would seem that a man who has just met a woman should feel some shyness, or at least be restrained in expressing his emotions. But this is not about a womanizer - he can tuck a lock of hair behind your ear in half an hour after meeting you, sit down closer and straighten the collar of your blouse or sort out your necklace. These are not "lecherous actions" - in this way he checks: whether you are available enough and whether he is not wasting time, "spudding" you.

Why do men like the images of ladies 'men and ladies' men so much? They break hearts, flying like moths, from one lover to another, and are not ashamed, but flaunt it!

Chief Casanova Hollywood Warren Beatty even published the book "The Star: How Warren Beatty Seduced America." By the most conservative estimates, he has 13,000 girlfriends! At various times, Joan Collins, Brigitte Bardot, Madonna, Diane Keaton, Cher and many others became the actor's beloved.

“In general, such a phenomenon as a man-womanizer is not very common. This type really exists. However, according to statistics, there are no more than 10% of true womanizers. But there are many more men who claim to be Don Juans, ”says Anetta.

Born womanizer

“It turns out that a womanizer is often not a personal characteristic, but a kind of traumatic experience that a man once faced. But there is also a category of men for whom a relationship with a woman is associated exclusively with the moment of receiving pleasure. This is a rather infantile type, he is not ready to be responsible for anyone, he feels good alone and, in addition, he loves variety very much.

Building a serious relationship with someone is not a priority for him. He, of course, is periodically in a relationship with someone, they can even last two or three years ... with one woman, and then the same amount with another, then with a third ... These relationships simply develop consistently and fade out after two or three years , spill out into new relationships. This is the real womanizer.

At the same time, he may still have some connections on the side. This is how he feels comfortable. For him, this is natural, normal. Often, womanizers are so-called "love-dependent" people who have a strong sexual constitution and at the same time very low selectivity. They do not make special demands on their partners emotionally and spiritually, but they are very scrupulous in matters of appearance.

It is difficult for such a man to come to terms with the fact that he will have to part with the opportunity to have sexual relations with many women for the sake of one. They are focused on pleasure, rarely talk about any values, their main verb is "I want." Such men are not at all offended by women, they do not try to devalue them, on the contrary, they speak very flatteringly about the ladies. Even sarcasm is not observed in their speech.

In communication, womanizers literally fascinate with their positive qualities, they can always help. The only thing they are not ready to sacrifice is their psychological space, their territory, their time, in other words, freedom ... Such men often brighten the lives of many women. These are true womanizers, and they should be left alone. Such a person can hardly be remade.

And yet, more often than not, a womanizer is a "by-product" of some life circumstances that have led either to underdevelopment or to a complete loss of the ability to build relationships. The first situation is formed in childhood, the second appears as a result of various traumatic situations already in adulthood. "

Where do the womanizer come from

“What circumstances could it be? The most obvious thing is that a man does not know how to build full-fledged relationships. This situation comes from his childhood. Perhaps he had an overbearing mother, or maybe she criticized him all the time. As a result of such upbringing, he is afraid of women, afraid of being absorbed by them.

For example, in the family, dad was always under mom's heels, did not have his own opinion. He was constantly attacked and drank softly. A man raised in such a family can avoid serious relationships. He knows for sure that he does not want to repeat the parental scenario and avoids creating a family. He is afraid to create a new scenario: suddenly it will not work.

Such a person is sure that as soon as he puts a wedding ring on his beloved finger, she will turn into a fury that wants to suppress him. He does not want to lose his masculinity, which for him is freedom, to change women and not to become attached to anyone. So he once decided.

Its main goal is to charm a woman.

The second reason a man can turn into a womanizer is betrayal by a woman. For example, a young man fell in love for the first time, but his girlfriend was beaten off by a rival. He licked his wounds for a long time and, as a result, as a therapy, he began to change women, like gloves, in order to prove to himself that he is attractive and can be liked by women, that that girl was wrong.

He really likes to defeat other men. And now he is constantly beating off women himself. Its main goal is to charm a woman. And at the same time he is very afraid of close relationships, because for him to become attached to someone is tantamount to becoming dependent again, vulnerable, if he again feels closeness with someone, he can relive the pain. "

Mask, I know you!

“Sometimes a man is made a womanizer by a difficult divorce. He understands that he is no longer ready to build such a serious relationship with someone. This is a responsibility.

A girl turned to me for just such an occasion. Her boyfriend has already divorced twice. But they started dating. He promised to marry her, and already everything was approaching the wedding, and then once - and he "ran away". Why? With one it did not work out, with the other it did not work out, and as a result, this negative experience suppressed him so much that he began to run away from obligations.

Faced with female infidelity, betrayal, a man tries to protect himself from possible negative experiences and is not ready for another serious relationship. Such a "womanizer" puts on a Don Juan mask, and this is a way for him to protect himself from feelings.

In each case, he is afraid of different things: a new wound, being absorbed, taking responsibility for himself, and so on. But it is always associated with the fear of full-fledged relationships. "

Womanizer's "shell" as a defensive reaction

“Another type is men who have gone through a difficult leaving of a woman and feel guilty before her. For example, widowers. These men can "hide behind" the image of a womanizer for years.

They brought a man to see me. He was sure that he did not need a new relationship, that he felt good alone. They began to understand the situation: 15 years ago he lost his wife. It was a car accident and he was driving. The man was very worried, he was tormented by a sense of guilt in front of his wife and son, he was constantly engaged in self-flagellation.

The wife's room remained the same as on the last day of her life. In fact, he kind of froze in his grief. Nature took its toll, the body demanded warmth and intimacy, and the soul rejected all this and regarded a possible relationship as a betrayal. As a result, almost all ties with women were one-time, sometimes there were several non-binding meetings ... He disagreed with everyone himself, and quite harshly. “All women are not like that, they want to seize my territory,” he said.

In fact, the person punished himself in order not to be happy. He could not forgive himself and denied possible happiness. Destroyed every relationship. And as soon as he realized this, experienced and accepted his loss, he stopped looking at women as a threat to his conscience.

Grief leads to the fact that a person seems to be overgrown with a shell. And this shell does not allow him to be truly happy. "

Save an ordinary womanizer

“When they come to me and tell me that a man is a womanizer, does not make an offer, is not ready for a relationship, I am always very skeptical about this. Most often, these are men who are disappointed in women, with negative experiences behind them, and if you build relationships with them correctly, they can thaw out. It is important to figure out if this game is worth the candle for you.

The second option is that a man may not be a "womanizer" and simply not want to marry a particular lady. And she begins to think up some labels for him in offense, artificially hang them on him. What an offended woman won't do!

So, how to overcome the fear of the "womanizer", its difficult zone of uncertainty?

Most importantly, do not try to remake it at any cost. In dealing with such a person, you need to create emotional comfort for him. But at the same time, in no case violate its borders, do not enter its territory. We need your warmth, but not obsession, genuine interest, but not "occupation" of his territory. You should be able to listen to him and sometimes ask questions related to experiences and emotions. But these should be minor questions at first. It is better to start with the sphere of work, because it is safer with a "womanizer".

The most convinced-looking womanizer can become a faithful and caring husband, a kind father.

Sometimes don't answer his calls, sign up for a dance and go explore French wines. The main thing is not to get hung up on him, let him have a certain deficit of you in communication! Do not run to him on the first call. Let such a guy feel that you still need to be carried away and captured.

What is the womanizer most afraid of? Attempts on his space! Any such expansion on the part of a woman is perceived as very painful. A lot of calls, SMS, supposedly forgotten things, questions about when your next meeting will be ...

Try to touch on some minor points of his past life, just to touch this mosaic. But not much! 1-2 questions about living in the genre of intimate conversation, and then move on to light conversation on abstract topics.

The most effective psychotherapy is love therapy.

Do not initiate too fast a rapprochement. Take your time to say: "Oh, you are my poor thing!" - will begin to thaw a little, and then he will be frightened of himself and will try to eject. In this case, the convergence should take place in small steps, almost like a cat's gait. Gently "trampling" the space, not making unnecessary sounds, not shaking the air, but steadily - closer to the fireplace.

The most convinced-looking womanizer, if there is a woman who can help him overcome his past and believe in real feelings, can become a faithful and caring husband, a kind father. The most effective psychotherapy is love therapy. Be happy!"

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